I hope everyone had a good
Mother’s Day. I certainly did. My girls and my son-in-law are so
much fun to hang out with, I never want to come back home! Although I
KNOW they have to live their own lives, I want to live WITH them (wouldn’t they
love that??), and yes, maybe, even live mine THROUGH them a little. We’ve
always joked that I only had children so that I could live vicariously through
them. And I would venture to say, that although we are certainly not
supposed to admit it, we all do that to some degree.
After all, is there anything
better on earth than witnessing your kids’ successes? It’s so much more
fun that witnessing your own, at least it is for me. I stay amazed at how
brainy, courageous, funny, beautiful, crass, self-centered, and loving they
are….all at the same time! I KNOW I was nowhere near their level of
evolvement or development when I was their ages. I’m with Gloria Steinem
when she said she didn’t think she had a real thought til she turned 30.
These young’uns are so far ahead of where I was at their age, I just sit back
and try to keep some kind of semblance of “up”.
I saw a posting on Facebook over
the weekend: the day you become a Mother (and it could just as well be a
Father) is the day you agree to wear your heart on the outside of your body for
the rest of your life. Isn’t that the truth??
I’ve lost two mothers in my
lifetime. My mother, Jane, died way too young at age 57 (when I was way
too young), and my step-mother, Pat, at age 72. Different as night and
day, they modeled so many important things about mothering for me and so many
important things about being a woman. I stayed mad at my mother for years
for being so strict, until I used a few of her techniques on my own kids and
saw how great they worked! I got less mad very quickly after that!
And from Pat I learned how to graciously manipulate an entire family of about
30 without ever raising her voice—quite a talent, huh?
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